If you are recently divorced, there
are some very common but important tasks that you should address as soon as
possible. This checklist is not comprehensive
by any means. Nevertheless, here are
some important issues to consider:
- Do you need to apply for a loan or
change the name on a bank or credit card account? Make sure you have at least
one certified copy of your divorce decree.
You can obtain a certified copy at the clerk’s office inside the courthouse
where your divorce was finalized.
“More people are out of work today than were last year.”
“There will be a double dip recession primarily because of the intransigence of high unemployment and the rapidly faltering housing market.”
“The unemployment rate is 9.5% and virtually certain to rise in the second half of the year.”
These are just a small sample of the media headlines I saw this past weekend. Depressing? Like it or not, the shape of our economy is often a gauge for many of the daily emotions we all can experience.
ways, effective co-parenting after divorce is no different then
effectively doing so during the marriage: Parents should continue to
share parental responsibilities according to their capabilities,
interests, and resources (i.e. time).
have been specializing in mediating custody arrangements for close to
20 years in which former partners share custody and parenting 50/50 –
straight down the middle. Although I will be the first to admit that
these arrangements are not suitable or appropriate for all families of
divorce, I know dozens of couples who are making this work and doing it
Being cooperative with
your ex and being active with your kids and involved in their lives are
some of the best ways to reduce the negative affects of divorce.
you worry about the affect your separation or divorce is having on your
kids? Do you wonder what you can do to reduce the impact on the kids
of your divorce today, tomorrow, and even after they are adults?
has proven over and over again that without a degree of civility and
cooperation between you and your ex, together with active involvement in
your kids' lives by both parents, children will not simply "bounce
back" from the divorce.
In many divorces, alimony and child
support create the most anxiety for couples who want to avoid court and
negotiate their own settlement. The
minimum amounts required for child support are quite specific and easy to
calculate for most families. This is
because there aremandatory child support schedulesor guidelines that have to
be used. Only in rare circumstances is it permissible for child support to be
lower than the guidelines' minimum. With alimony, by
contrast, there is no specific formula, calculator, or guidelines.
and Nancy, ages 35 and 36 respectively, had been married 15 years when
Nancy began talking openly about wanting a divorce. When she hired an
attorney to file the papers, Tim was devastated and angry. He did not
see this coming. Within hours of getting "served" at his office with the
initial divorce papers Tim had appointments set with several attorneys
known for being expensive and very aggressive. Tim hired one of these to
addition to being good and dedicated parents to their 10-year-old twin
sons, Tim and Nancy were a financially successful couple.
During the divorce process Emotional endurance and balance are necessary and powerful ingredients in the
1. Get support systems in place Make sure you get strong emotional support and encouragement from trusted
friends, family, a spiritual advisor or counselor to help you through the
difficult, complex feelings that are associated with the divorce process.
2. Postpone big decisions Postpone life altering decisions until you are able to think clearly about
relocating or changing jobs, another relationship or acquiring significant
Divorce is a confusing time, and you may not be thinking
rationally. Nevertheless, there are costly implications for making some very common financial mistakes that people make while they are going through separation or divorce. Here's some solid financial advice If you are in the middle of a divorce:
your job to avoid paying alimony and/or child support– Don't be a loser! Quitting your job, or changing jobs for one with lower pay for the sole purpose of avoiding alimony and/or child support, is a great way to sabotage any hope of an amicable divorce.